Sunday, June 20, is Father’s Day. In June, my blogs will be about fathers and who we are in the world.
Back in the late ’70s, there was a band called Kiss. It was made up of four guys who were totally rock ‘n’ roll. I was in high school when they came to play at our largest building in Savannah, Georgia. It was my first concert ever and all my friends were going to be there. In fact, I think the entire student body from Groves High School planned to be there.
Those guys stepped out on stage loud and proud. I had never seen so much excitement from a group playing music. They hadall kinds of makeup on, and their clothes were like something out of a horror movie. They wore black, had silver teeth-like shoes and had spikes all over their clothing.
That place went crazy for hours, and that night has lived with my friends and me for the past 40 years.
Do you know who the original band members were? They were Paul Stanley, rhythm guitar; Gene Simmons, bass; Ace Frehley, lead guitar; and Peter Criss, drums. They all did vocals. Each band member brought a special talent to the group, yet individually they probably wouldn’t have been such successful musicians, as prosperous or famous enough to have a place in the Rock & Roll Hall of Fame.
So I ask you as an individual, especially as a father, what do you bring to your family every day that is so important, so unique,that your wife, your children or your friends will be talking about for the next 40 years?
Will it be something like this?• My dad was never home for a family dinner• He was always too intoxicated to remember the holidays • I never knew what the inside of any type of church building looked like• My dad beat me until I could hardly breathe • My dad never told me he loved me
Or will it be more like this?• My dad told me every day before he went to work how proud he was of me• My dad made sure we went as a family to church for worship on Sundays• When my dad was able, he would see me play in any type of event that I was a team member of• I was told at least a thousand times: remember who you are,and remember that’s my last name you’re carrying
When someone meets your children, and they’re asked about their dad, what answer will they give?